Fail to move on,
Fail to reach your ideal weight,
Fail to get into your dream university,
Fail in your career,
Fail in your relationship/ marriage,
How many failures did you have to go through last year, KALMers? According to a study, the second week of January is the moment where most people failed their New Year resolution. Are you one of them, KALMers?
To Fail is Normal
Is there anyone in the world that never fails? But we cannot deny that when we fail in anything, we experience various negative emotions like shame, disappointment, anger, sadness, and confusion. For certain, none of us like to experience these negative emotions. In extreme cases, if we are not able to properly face our failures and those negative emotions we could go suffer from atychiphobia or the irrational fear of failure.
So what should we do to face and manage our failures?
Here are 5 tips from KALM:
Did you know that Thomas Alfa Edison have to fail more than 10,000 times before he can finally successfully invented the light bulb. Failing once, twice, or even a hundred times does not necessarily mean you are a total failure, KALMers!
Don’t Get Tied Down to One Way
There are achievements that require persistence, but there are some that requires you to be flexible and seek different ways. Open our eyes and be creative. Don’t forget that there are many ways to Rome.
Compared the Consequences of Trying and Not Trying
Which would feel worse? To try and fail or to never try at all and be haunted by it? Be grateful and thank yourself for having the courage to try.
Don’t Forget About Your Successes
You might fail before but you also have experience success before. Unfortunately, psychologically we are more focused on our failures. Let’s remember again all the successes we have achieved.
KALM Tips: Do you want to find an easier way to remind yourself of your successes? Use KALM’s Gratitude Journal that is available both in Apple App Store (here) and Google Playstore (here). Don’t know what is Gratitude Journal? Read about it here.
Slow And Steady Does It
It’s okay to pace ourselves as long as we can reach our goal. There is no need to compare where we are with other people. We do not need to rush. Failure is just another step toward our success.
A Meaningful Failure
You might have experience a lot of failures last year, KALMers. But let us try to see our failures in fresh perspective. Have you learnt something new? Have you know yourself better? Is there new window of opportunities that are now open because you have tried, though you failed?
Failure can also be a way for us to know ourselves deeper: our mistakes, lack, and weaknesses. It is only after we know them that we can map out the way to be better.
Let’s learn how to successfully fail this year!
If the fear and failure that experienced is interfering with your day-to-day life, don’t hesitate to contact a Kalmselor through KALM App.