Pillow Talk Beauty Journal X KALM
On Friday, 26th March 2021, KALM’s Co-founder, Karina Negara, had the opportunity to speak at Beauty Journal’s regular event, Pillow Talk, with Marketing Executive Beauty Journal, Annete Lupita. At this event that aired on Instagram Live, Beauty Journal and KALM discussed the challenges of upgrading ourselves, one of which is self-sabotaging. So, for KALMers who missed the event, here is the summary.
It cannot be denied that trying to upgrading ourselves is not easy. We will often face many forms of self-sabotage that makes it difficult. Starting from our insecurities about our own abilities, feeling of unworthiness (impostor syndrome), to feeling too positive about ourselves or thinking we are already good, that can lead to passivity. All of these things will certainly hinder us from achieving higher success.
So to help us, Karina provides us some tips to dealing with the various forms of self-sabotaging above. Curious? Let’s read on…
Upgrading Ourselves Tip #1: Identify Your Areas of Insecurity
Feelings of insecurity do not appear all of sudden. There are many events and experiences that build it. The way our environment treats us is one. People in the past may not trust us, which ultimately led to our present feelings of insecurity. By identifying the feelings of insecurity and its cause, we will be able to make peace with it and begin to fix them. In this case, counseling may be needed so this identification does not end without any solution.
Upgrading Ourselves Tip #2: Focus on Facts and Reality
When working on a project or our job we might not be completely confident or feel like we are worthy to get praised for what we did. At these times it is necessary for us to stick to facts and reality rather than our own negative assumptions. We may assume that our job is not good enough, but if the results are satisfactory for other people it means your assumption is wrong.
Upgrading Ourselves Tip #3: Don’t let Irrelevant Comments Define You
Don’t let just anyone define us the way they want. We have to be able to set boundaries on what comments should be taken into consideration and which ones should not. People on social media may comment and criticize us badly because they envy us but friends give criticism because they care and want the best for us. Choose the ones who can be trusted to provide feedback on our progress.
Upgrading Ourselves Tip #4: Acknowledge “Negative” Feelings And Emotions
This is to avoid any form of toxic positivity toward oneself. In the process of growing and upgrading you will experience a lot of “negative” feelings. It may be fear of starting new things or facing disappointment when you do not do well. By acknowledging that feeling of fear or disappointment, you will know what to do to overcome it. These negative feelings and emotions are what help you grow.
Upgrading Ourselves Tip #5: Evaluate Every Progress
Evaluation is important so that we will understand what needs to be improved next. Without evaluation, we will not make progress. Try to acknowledge what we are lacking and continue to improve it.
Well, so that’s it, KALMers. Upgrading ourselves is not easy. For KALMers who find it difficult to face challenges in trying to upgrade yourself you can seek professional guidance. They can help you identify the areas of insecurities so you would not just end up overthinking what to do. Go and download the KALM application here. There will be many Kalmselors who can help you there.
“Upgrading ourselves is like a growing plant. It needs to break through the hard soil and be willing to be pruned so that someday it can become a beautiful plant. Humans, too, need to experience a lot of “discomfort” to be better than before. ” ─ Karina Negara
Author: Rachma Fitrianing Lestari
Translator: Rachma Fitrianing Lestari & Jessica Delphina Lay
Editor: Lukas Limanjaya