On 27th May 2021, Co-founder of KALM, Karina Negara had the opportunity to be a speaker at the Webinar event organized by OVO Indonesia. OVO itself is a company engaged in digital financial services in Indonesia. In this webinar, KALM discusses busyness, productivity, and stress management. After Part 1 which you can read at this link, (link) the next topic to be discussed is stress management. For those who feel stressed easily, you need to read this!
Karina Negara defines “stressor” as anything that we perceive as threatening and beyond our control. This stressor will cause our body to feel depressed and become stressed. “In psychology there is such a thing as the 3Ps (Pikiran, Perasaan, Perilaku in Bahasa Indonesia): Thoughts, Feelings, and Behaviors. Basically when we feel stressed, these three components must respond,” she added.
Knowing The Symptoms By Listening To Your Body
The first step to managing stress is to know the symptoms. But recognizing the symptoms of stress may be more difficult than we think. Most of us are so used to stress that we don’t even know we are under stress – until we reach our limit and can’t take it anymore!
Therefore it is important for us to be more aware of things that could be symptoms of stress itself. “Listen to your body, because our thoughts can lie and feelings we can deny. But your body keeps the score. It will tell you if you are stressed out,” said Karina.
Symptoms such as easily feeling tired, headaches, insomnia, stomach pains such as diarrhea or constipation, to loss of sexual interest are actually our body’s way of telling us that we are stressed. These symptoms if ignored can lead us to a more serious level of stress or burnout. Wow, it can be dangerous, KALMers!.
If there is an expression in Bahasa Indonesia that says ‘Lebih baik mencegah daripada mengobati’ (Better to prevent than to cure), then in this OVO Webinar, KALM will also provide tips on preventing stress so that it doesn’t lead to burnout. Here are the tips!
Grounding technique is a relaxation technique that allows us to divert feelings of anxiety to become more mindful. We can use our fifth-sense to identify things around us. See and hear the objects in front of you and focus your mind on them. Smell things you can smell or taste things you can eat or drink, coffee for example. This exercise will help to relax when you are feeling overwhelmed.
Accepting What We Feel
To know the symptoms of stress, we need to listen to our body. So in the next step, to deal with stress we need to listen to our feelings. Try to acknowledge and accept how you feel when you’re stressed, for example by saying, “I feel upset,” or “I feel tired and frustrated.” By acknowledging our feelings means we are one step ahead in being able to overcome it.
Fulfill Your Basic Needs
Now, after we are done with our feelings, the last 3P parts are about thoughts and behavior. Maintaining personal hygiene, exercising, getting enough rest, maintaining body nutrition, and calming our mind are the five basic self-care to keep yourself functioning optimally. It should be remembered, in doing self-care, it is better to do it with the right formula, called “Do-able daily & Do-able alone.” It means that good self-care must be done routinely every day and alone/independently so it doesn’t give us any trouble to do it. Watching movies or maintaining our diet are examples of self-care that is “Do-able daily & Do-able alone.”
So, those are the tips that KALM shared on how to manage stress KALMers. Don’t forget to ‘Listen to your body,’ okay!
If KALMers find it difficult to cope with stress and want to consult with professional Kalmselors, KALMers can download the KALM Application from this link. The KALM application is ready to help KALMers to consult about mental health any time.
Writer: Rachma Fitrianing Lestari
Translator: Rachma Fitrianing Lestari
Editor: Lukas Limanjaya