On Sunday, July 25th, 2021, Co-Founder of KALM, Karina Negara had the opportunity to deliver a Parenting Webinar for Tanoto Scholars Association ITB (TSA ITB). The webinar with the theme of “How to Educate Children Well in a Pandemic Situation to Maintain and Support Children’s Mental Health and Education,” is intended for student’s parents of SDN 03 Plesiran. This event is a continuation of the Study Program Buddy initiated by TSA ITB.
At this hour and a half event, Karina Negara asked parents to discuss about creating the best Parenting Model for Gen Z. Focusing on the problems faced in educating ‘anak zaman now’ or the Now Generation, Karina tries to present various new perspectives. She also gave tips that parents should know in order to successfully educate their children without drama. What are those? Keep on reading, KALMers!
Parenting Without Drama Tips KALM Version:
Understanding Our’s and Our Children’s Needs
Before understanding our children’s needs, wouldn’t it be better for parents to understand their own needs first? Did KALMers know that the need to be heard, appreciated, accepted and loved, and also to be forgiven and to forgive others are in fact basic needs for every human being. By understanding these needs, we can better reflect these needs in our children. For example, it is as simple as if we, as parents, make a mistake then we actually need to apologize to our child. This will teach them to be able to give and receive apologies. Sounds simple, right? But it is important!
Do a Self Reflection in How We Educate, Don’t Just Say, “No”
KALM Moms and Dads here, what type of parents are you? The type of “everything is allowed” or ‘nothing is allowed’? Children, especially those of elementary school age, are actually in the phase of trying new things. They will be happy if they receive appreciation and recognition. In this case parents should not limit their creativity with various restrictions. Instead of just saying, “No”, how about trying to help, accompany them, and process with them?
Adjusting the Way We Communicate with Children
How to communicate with children is an important aspect. Keep in mind, when talking to children, parents must adapt to the child’s way of thinking, not the other way. For example, you can use the If-Then Model and give them concrete examples when talking to children aged 7-11 years or a two-way discussion communication model for teenagers.
Understanding Children’s Emotions with Validation
Emotional understanding and validation is not only important for increasing self-awareness, KALMers! This is also an important aspect in educating and nurturing children. When your child is being cranky for example, instead of scolding him/her, try to validate their feeling by asking how he/she feels. Just simple words like, “Are you sad because you can’t meet your friends?” or, “Are you mad because Mommy told you to stop playing?” is not only useful to make you understand the emotional condition of the child. It also helps you to fulfill their need to be heard.
So, those are the tips that KALM has compiled from the Parenting Webinar for TSA ITB. If KALMers have a community or organization that wants to work with KALM regarding Mental Health services, you can contact our email firstname.lastname@example.org or via KALM’s social media! KALMporate service is ready to be your Mental Health partner (click here to know more about KALMporate services).
Written by: Rachma Fitrianing Lestari
Edited by: Lukas Limanjaya