KALMers, have you heard about love languages? There are many different ways to express our love and affection for others. These differences are summarized into five types of love languages.
Gary Chapman wrote his book “The Five Love Languages” in 1992 and it is still widely used today. Love language is a person’s way of expressing and receiving affection in a relationship. Keep on reading this article to know more about love language!
Five Love Languages
Here are five love languages you need to know:
1. Words of Affirmation
Words of affirmation are a way to convey our affection through words of support, appreciation, and praise. Words of affirmation can be expressed verbally to your partner but can also be expressed in written form. Someone who has this type of love language, they will feel cared for and loved by others if they receive words of affirmation and encouragement, KALMers.
2. Quality Time
Quality time, also known as Qtime, is a type of love language that is expressed by spending uninterrupted time with loved ones. People who have this love language believe that the time spent by their partners to be with them is a genuine expression of love. It’s important to focus and give your partner your full attention when spending time together with someone like this.
3. Physical Touch
Someone with physical touch as their primary love language feels loved by their partner through physical closeness. If you are happy, comfortable, and desire various types of physical touch, such as hugs or holding hands, physical touch might be your love language.
4. Act of Service
In this love language, someone expresses their love by doing activities that relieve their partner’s burden. Simple acts of kindness, such as helping with the dishes, cleaning the house, or helping with work/tasks, will make someone with it feel loved and appreciated.
5. Receiving Gift
When someone with this love language receives a gift from their partner, they will feel loved. They value not only the form of the gift given, but also the time and effort put in by the person who made the gift for them, because the effort shows that their partner cares about them.
Get to Know Your Love Languages
After getting to know the various love languages above, you might want to know which love language you have. These are some questions you can ask yourself, KALMers.
Imagine you are in a relationship, which one makes you feel loved by your partner:
- Often given compliments and being told “I love you” by your loved ones?
- Being surprised with a meaningful gift that you like?
- Spending time with your partner?
- Holding hands when walking together?
- Doing something for your partner that you know they would like?
Answering the questions above will help you to understand your love language better. In addition, communicating the things you want in your relationship to your partner can also help you learn more about how to express your love.
That is all the information about 5 Love Languages. Hopefully this article can help you recognize the language of love better. So, what do you think, KALMers? What’s your love language?
If you are still in doubt, or have a very different love language with your partner and are confused about what to do, don’t hesitate to contact a professional counselor who can be accessed through the KALM app (download here!) KALM has Couple Counseling services that can help you figure things out with your partner!
Written by: Dzulfani S Nisa
Translated by: Dzulfani S Nisa
Edited by: Rachma Fitria & Lukas Limanjaya
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